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Edgeplay

by Sir Bamm!

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Sir Bamm has been involved in WIITWD since approximately 1980. Limiting focus to the past decade, Bamm was involved in the formation of the Safe, Sane, and Consensual Network (SSCN) in NC and was on the original Board of Directors for that group. In 2000, he received a Merlin Award for Leather Activism.  He has served as the DM Captain for SSCN and for the School for Austin Area Dominants Education (SAADE). For a short time Bamm was on the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)'s Incident Response Team, served as the Group With No Name (GWNN)'s DM Captain and in 2001 and 2002 he served on GWNN's Election Committee.

In 2002, he became the Chief Security Officer for SAADE and became a member of the SAADE Council, where he has also established the DM Certification Program for SAADE and the DM "Train the Trainers" program. Bamm served as a Mentor in the Austin Mentor's Program from 2001-2003. He has also had the privilege of being asked to give presentations on Old Style Submission, Signal Whips, Dungeon Monitoring, Negotiations and other topics at such groups as SSCN, SAADE, SAS/M, TOL, ALE, TLP and the Kinky Aggies.

Bamm presently holds certifications as a CPR instructor, a HazMat Technician, an Advanced Firefighter and as an EMT.  He has a Master's Degree in Religion and is the Training Officer for two organizations he currently belongs to and the captain of a local fire department. He is in an open, poly relationship with his 24/7 slave, terri, and can easily be approached for demonstrations, presentations, conversations or negotiations at

His web site is at http://www.SirBamm.com

 

A friend of Mine, pix, in the southeastern Ohio area, wrote a great post on one of the lists that I belong to on the topic of edge play. With her permission, I have used a lot of her information below. Oour views on edge play differ slightly. However, it was so thought provoking that I decided to dedicate a page on My web site to this topic.

For the actual post in its entirety, go to SE Ohio BDSM and click on "Edgeplay". All of the articles in the Founder's Forum at the above link will soon be found in a manuscript that pix is putting together. If you would like to find out more, write to pix. I don't think she bites.

Those Who Know, Do
A lot of BDSMers in pix's area say that they are edge players. And they will say what there type of play is, but, they won't say much more about it. she says that their credo is, "We don't speak our kink in details."

pix goes on to say that this happens for a few reasons. First, edge players are still one of the few groups shunned by the alternative lifestyle community. On the scale of "kinkable distaste" they say that they are often made to feel like they fall somewhere slightly above snuff, bestiality & pedophilia. The less they talk with the community at large, the less they are ostracized and excluded. Second, edge players feel they hold a responsibility to "keep it away from the newbies" so that people entering the lifestyle aren't scared off by such extremes or so that people interested don't try dangerous activities without knowing the basic safety of BDSM, first. Lastly, edge players very much tire of the stereotypes that alternative lifestylists have about them, and they want to spend their time having fun instead of educating & fighting stereotypes the way they would outside of the community.

I guess I've been lucky. In the areas that I've lived in, there have been a lot more people doing edge-type play, so I always felt more like the "norm" than the "outcast". And like pix, My interests have always been in the fields of how the law effects what it is that we do and educating the SM community, as well as the vanilla community. My various commitments in the past to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) as a Coalition Partner Board Member and Second Tier Incident Responder, as the GWNN liaison to the NCSF, as a contributor to the SAADE Guide on Dealing with Law Enforcement at Your Door, as a Mentor with the SAADE Mentor Group, along with the various presentations and demonstrations I also do, free of charge, further that goal and that ideal.

What is edge play?
Is it edge play to the players involved, or only to those watching?
According to steel-door, edge play is: "... the action of offering new challenges to the Edges of play you and your submissive are already familiar with." Both pix and I usually hear people refer to "Edge Play" as anything inherently dangerous, such as knife play, electrical play, breath control, blood sports, fire play, needle play, etc.

Tonight, I went to a party where there were only edge players. And this very topic came up. Is it really SSC that Wwe're doing or is it really risk aware consensual? And how much of what Wwe do is really edge play? And is it edgy to the others in Oour group or just to outsiders? One slave made the analogy that she thinks that anyone who jumps out of an airplane is insane and that behavior isn't safe to her, but to the people doing it, it's absolutely perfect.

For most of Uus, both of the definitions in this section header are correct.
For some, dangerous play is called edge play because for most people that is the edge of where the players have gone.
For others, edge play is a bit more difficult to explain. And it isn't based on the people watching, because most edge play takes place without anyone watching. There aren't DM's or "seconds", and the focus is so intent on what You are doing that You wouldn't notice if people were watching anyway, besides for the fact that most of the "really" edgy play is not permitted at most public parties.

There is danger in most types of BDSM play. Even a simple hand spanking, done incorrectly, can lead to permanent damage. Is knife intimidation play really edge play? Are temporary needle piercings really considered edgy?

Is breath play the only play that is truly edge play? Because in breath play there is no way of signaling a safeword before it's too late and it also may be the only type of play in which there are no signs of trouble. A bottom doesn't know when they are going to pass out because they feel extremely relaxed. Even if they could identify this euphoria as a precursor to passing out, by the time they reach this point, they have lost too much oxygen to the brain to articulate the need for air and they have less than a fraction of a second before they are unconscious.

What may really separate edge play from typical play isn't so much the danger involved, but the lack of recourse if that danger line is crossed. Just like we practice "safer" sex rather than "safe" sex, so might Oour definitions of SSC be manipulated. Wwe play "safer", "saner" and consensual rather than "safe", "sane" and consensual. And this is where pix and I disagree. she feels that edge players rarely adhere to the credo of Safe, Sane & Consensual themselves (although, she says, most feel it is a good policy, encourage it highly, introduce newcomers to SSC, but it just isn't for them, in their play). I feel that each person's interpretation of SSC dictates what is and is not safe, based upon their knowledge, skill level and the length of time with their partner.

So, What's Up With That?
Many edge players aren't sure, themselves, why they do it. Some say the endorphins from fear are a factor. Some thrive on the danger. Some have a fascination with the realm of death they can't experience through typical play. A few even admit that they have issues and edge play is a way of escaping those issues. Some do it for the total and complete surrender of their very life to their partner. Some do it because it has become an obsession or a fetish. Some do it because it takes them to a whole new subspace. Some do it because they are extreme emotional or physical masochists. There are probably as many reasons for edge play as their are for typical play.

Most edge players specialize in a specific area of edge play. Most are highly educated in their particular interest and they restrict their edge play to a limited number of partners who are also educated in that area. Most are strongly against mind-altering substances. And most edge playing bottoms are also attention sluts.

In Closing
It is the general opinion that betrayal of Safe, Sane and Consensual is reason enough to exclude someone from a group or party and edge players don't want to be excluded. They, also, don't want to scare people away. And by all means, they don't want others to engage in the things that they do without knowing what the others are doing.

Some edge players also take a lot of ridicule or insult for their style of play. How many times have people come up to My! t and told her that she was crazy? Or that what she is doing is sick?

I'm very fortunate to belong to a group that believes in education. Every SAADE meeting consists of an educational portion, a demonstration portion and a social portion. And since I'm the DM Captain and the Chief Security Officer, we'll keep educating, as long as we keep learning!

 

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