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These are guidelines for polite behavior in the BDSM scene. It's based on observations, personal experiences, conversations with peers, mailing list & newsgroup postings,
workshops, web pages, magazine articles, books, and personal mistakes. While some items of higher protocol are covered, these notes are mainly to address the most common social situations.

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene
Etiquette and Leather Protocol

Version 2.09

Version 1.00 first posted May 31, 1999
Version 2.00 first posted May 31, 2005
(formerly entitled "Basic Protocol and Etiquette"
and "Some Notes on Basic Protocol and Etiquette")

This article is dedicated to Beverly M. in Austin

Part 7 of 7:
In Closing


In Closing


In summary -- play nice. BDSM is about playing games, and in the best games everyone has fun.

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Further Reading and Sources

This article is only meant to be a starting point. For further study here are books and links:

Further Reading Etiquette in General


Further Reading on Etiquette and Protocol in a BDSM and Leather Context


Links About the Old Guard


Acknowledgments (Additional Sources)


Even More BDSM Etiquette, Scene Traditions, and Leather Protocol Links


Polite Behavior for Vampyres


Related Articles by Ambrosio


Recommended Books


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