Ambrosio's Personal Ad

Me:

I'm an experienced gentleman top with dominant tendencies: height weight proportionate, on the heavy side but not obese, drug and disease free, single white cisgender male professional. I was born in the mid 1960s. I am self-aware and caring. I currently live in Austin but I am well known in San Antonio, Louisville (KY), and Lexington (KY.) I've been in the BDSM scene since approximately 1994 and active since about 1995. I'm a member of GWNN, National Leather Association International, and SASSY. I co-founded SAS/M and SADD. I've served on the boards of KUFS (in Lexington) and SAS/M. Currently, I am the leader of KiSS, the munch in South Austin.

For more details, view my profile.

Up Close and Personal

BDSM is a big part of my life but I don't define who I am by my role as a top. I'm a real person. I'm more than an adjective.

When one bases one's identity on a lifestyle, isn't one confusing the artifice with it's creator, the house with it's occupant, the facade with the feeling self? A house without an occupant is not a home, a life-style without a self is not a person.
- Alexander Lowen, MD
Narcissism: Denial of the True Self   (209)

There's more to me than BDSM. I'm intelligent, well-read, caring, considerate, talented, honorable, polite, funny, and imperfect.

when you're pretty as a picture
they pound down your door
but i've been offered love
in two dimensions before
and i know that it's not all
it's made out to be
let's show them how it's done
let's do it all imperfectly
 - Ani DiFranco
"Imperfectly"

I'm a geek -- an endearing geek with a quirky sense of humor. I collect obscure books, make esoteric references, spend far too much time on my computer, and watch cult movies, foreign films, & Star Trek.

So if you're looking for an infallible, omnipotent "true Master" who's always in control, keep looking. That's not me. (At least not all the time.)

Her

I am looking for an intelligent, healthy, height weight proportionate, special single cisgender female bottom, sub, or switch (Single White Female 36-65.) Above all she must be sincere, honest, and communicative. I also value intelligence, kindness, and open mindedness. I'd like her to be well read or widely read.

My Type?

I don't have a particular type per se. I'm not indiscriminate but I can find beauty in many different shapes and sizes. I'm attracted to ...

• healthy rubenesque beauties
• petite gurrls with peach fuzz buzz cuts and body mods
• classical beauties with corn feed good looks
• women who are none of the above

First Meeting Expectations

For first meetings I try to meet potential play partners in coffee shops or restaurants. I won't be in "Dom mode" and I don't expect the submissive to be in "sub mode" either. I don't like feeling like I'm auditioning for a role. I want to meet and get to know a "real" person before we start playing roles.

In a first meeting I only expect the same respect and consideration from a potential submissive that I would give other people -- dom, sub, switch, and vanilla alike. Any role playing would have to follow negotiation. In other words, I'm not in the habit of "pulling rank" without negotiating first.

I don't expect honorifics from someone before I've negotiated with them. Although I must admit I find it very pleasant when ladies call me "sir." However, I do not want her to address me as "master." That might come later -- or not at all -- after time and negotiation. The term is over used. I reserve that for a long term committed relationship.

Online Virtual D/S?

I'm not really interested in Online Virtual D/S. I'm a terrible typist and it takes me too much effort for too little return. I'd be willing to correspond via email for a while but I prefer telephone calls and face to face meetings. If you are only interested in submitting online, we wouldn't be a good match.

About Service:

In addition to playing, I am open to a strictly service oriented relationship -- non-sexual. I will accept petitions from a submissive who sincerely wishes to make my life easier by performing domestic duties or computer related tasks. He or she would have to be detail-oriented, loyal, hardworking, and respectful with a positive self-image and clear objectives. If you are interested, write me a short biography, a list of objectives, and a list of the skills you are offering (such as cleaning, sewing, painting, cooking, art, mathematical, automotive, grammatical, spelling, writing, and computer.)

I will not request or accept any financial contributions from a submissive.

Caveat: If you wish to be part of a long-standing leatherman tradition (i.e., "old guard") I cannot oblige. I have not been mentored in the old guard tradition or "earned my leathers." But I am knowledgable and honorable.

Meeting Safety

If you are considering meeting a stranger online or in person -- myself included -- please read Some Notes on Safety for Meeting Online and Off . I don't take any offense at someone being cautious with me. (I know that I'm safe and honest but you don't.)

Intrigued?

If you want more particulars then view my profile: "Big Time Sensuality". Are you ready to open a dialog? Then contact me.

Postscript on Writing Conventions

You might notice that I don't automatically capitalize "dom words" and type "sub words" in all lower case. ("Thank you slave pam for your gift to Me. I appreciate the care that you showed in preparing My gift.") I am aware of the slavese convention, but I choose not to observe it in public writing. I'm not criticizing how other people choose to identify themselves. I am only trying to incorporate the rules I learned -- with great effort -- in my English classes. You may use what ever text case you wish -- EXCEPT PLEASE NOT ALL CAPS. (I always feel like someone is yelling at me when I read text in all caps.)

I hope you liked my ad. Please write me if you think we'd make a good match.

Yours in Pleather,
Ambrosio
Ambrosio of Austin